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No, I'm not asking for, nor is this in any way about, money. Clearly, I'm not the one to give advice about money. Me and money DO NOT get along very well. This here is about emotional investment and some of its pitfalls.When I went through a semester course in scuba diving, I recall my instructor, Harry, saying that you don't take a $90 hammer down on a challenging dive. The reason being, when fate deals you a bad fin and your oxygen is low, you are going to fixate on the dropped hammer and try to retrieve it rather than save yourself. You are invested in the hammer and it distracts you from clear thinking (although low oxygen shares the blame).
I thought of the lady who jumped onto the tracks to retrieve her gym bag and got herself killed. She was invested and she paid the ultimate price.
What about relationships? Okay, here we go, let's ponga el pie en la boca as we say in Dublin. How many people are in a relationship and coast along because they have emotionally invested in it, convincing themselves that this is right because of x,y,z (and for the record mine is zipped, for now anyway). They delude themselves, try to convince themselves that what they have is really good. Maybe they don't want to hurt and disappoint their partner or they rationalize, otherwise they couldn't face that they wasted years with someone who may be quite nice but not their fillet-of-solemate.
Now if you are reading this and think I wrote this as a not-so-subtle hint to you, you are paranoid, egocentric and absolutely correct! If it hits the spot then the spot must be there. Let the record show that for once in my life I did indeed hit the correct spot.
Now, of course, this isn't entirely fair, seeing as people make all sorts of calculations when deciding to marry someone or remain married or in a relationship. Who am I (Jean Valjean?) to say that this is wrong? Perhaps the conscious decision to commit to someone will lead to a deeper bond and ouila! instant soulmate soup! And, if your ADD mind can recall how this all began, with my warning not to take my advice on money...have you seen my past relationship faux pas?
Captain Hammer's hammer is strapped on and secured, I hereby divest myself of the whole topic.
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